Timeout times

Yesterday I had time out a for all three kids for various reasons - throwing things (aishu)  not telling the truth (ashwin) and hitting the sister (akshaya) !

Sounds like a mad house but wasn't so bad. Quite an enjoyable day yesterday with swimming a nap even and building with blocks. Did some rudimentary maths with ashwin too.

Aishu 's timeout was most dramatic. I put her there and counted to 10 straight away. In those seconds such drama.  Akshaya had tears in her eyes. Ashwin stopped playing and went to console her saying aatha was naughty. Aye nan tells me she is crying so much! After 10 seconds o invited her out of ten corner. Everything was OK.  15 min later she goes back to the corner and looks at me cheekily with anticipation!  I had to tell her it didn't count if she went there on her own accord!

New

And it's done I've found a school for him.
That teacher told me he's slow lah.
And I had to tell this new teacher that teacher said and I agree that he's slower than other kids his age.
Very sad for me to say things like that.  Saro told me to tell the teacher so she doesn't wait a whole term to find out. And to say we agreed with the schools assessment. 

So I did  . But... now I think of it... I don't agree with their assessment to and labelling at all. 😕

I can't believe I let a school label my kid
I can't believe it .

5 months there now and he's had one pathetic show and tell where they say he did well. Rest of the time nothing . I agree he takes ages to eat and drink and he likes to observe a lot and he's gentle when he plays not rough though he wants to join the big kids. He looks babyish so they don't include him.

Sigh. I love him.
He's loving kind caring sweet
He's intelligent makes connections and patterns
He's dramatic and imaginative 
And they call him slow!

So I've found him a new school. 
Can  only pray it's a better school for him.
They have small class sizes and they say provide opportunities for kids to talk

A new school for ashwin

I missed a parents day concert at ashwins school last Friday.  Very sore about it . He didn't tell me the school might have thru letters which I never saw.  That day they saw me didn't tell Me.

He 3 didn't dance too well I hadn't practised with him
  He's a darling he loves performing.

When I get him a new school this is what I want

1. Small class size. 1 is to 10. Speech and drama and regular show and tell. Proper channels of communication  between parents and kids . Regular ptm. Ya. So I start the hunt OK.  In June.  Morning session preferred.

More on ashwin

My baby has very bad mouth ulcers.  Was so hard to see him controlling and managing the pain. He does it by contorting his face his eyes get so big his mouth trembling to stop crying. Hart breaking.

Parenting thoughts

Yes so akshaya was quite mad with me yesterday we had to rush like crazy to school she said quite firmly I am to start waking her at 6.20 so she gets up by 6.30.

I was quite proud of her! She was concerned about on time! Today we made it left home by 7.14 coz we planned to leave our house by 7.10. Was sure peaceful.  Thank god.

The day before yesterday saro yelled at me. His face was stern his eyes huge his lips drawn. Quite a scary sight. I was glad I was shaken. Coz I know now how scary I must be when I yell at the kids how awful it feels to be on the other side of it . And how I will now try to avoid yelling at them as much as I can. It's only fair.  I will try.

my unique little boy

the other day I realised something \
my son is truly totally unique
the way he thinks, the way he processes information, the way he insists on wearing certain kinds of clothes - they are all pointing to a picture that I can't quite place but I can see that it all adds up.

today I read about sensory processing issues - and about other kids and adults who are particular, super super particular about their clothes, amongst other things

initially I was worried, but then I realised it just confirmed what I have been thinking of a few days - whether you call it a disorder or not is just a naming exercise
I do not call it that
but I see that he is different and special and I have to accept that and do my best to help him make sense of this world through accepting his idioscyracies and not forcing him out of it

currently this extends to only wearing pants of a certain length and of certain colours - no greens and oranges and navy blues
Jeans are okay. black pants are the best. white pants are okay
length must be perfect, touching his feet, preferably a little longer so even when he sleeps the pants don't ride up

no singlets.

shorts sleeves, long sleeves are okay.

he makes exceptions for school though thank goodness. just that you can sense he can't wait to get home and get out of those clothes.

and he thinks differently.
makes up patterns in his way of thinking, sees parallels
really quite beautiful

if I can let him be, not cramp him with our 'usual' requirements of normal expected behaviour - he could become a real one in a kind genius kind of fellow!
my kutty brilliant fashionista!

lovehim so much!