Quick reflections

Baby wakes up at 5.30 and says. Aatha my pants are wet.
A second later "i didnt go kinching"!

Sweetie pie. At 5.30 all i can is okay its okay yes you didnt go kinching

Yesterday night akshaya was cranky grumpy. I got mad at her told her to go to bed and that she must be fast asleep in 10 min.

Ashwin waits a while then tells me seriously "Aatha... she cant fall fast asleep in 10 min. Only fall asleep. To fall fast asleep it will take 15 min. "

Later he snuggles up to me and says "akka is always like that when she's tired.. i don't mind"
Such care and understanding!! Love my little ones so much

4 qn now 9

Right. Everytime i ask them questions at bed time i fall asleep! Not very encouraging. Today i sat with them after i came home from work and wr talked for 45 min! Around the 4 qn which now include a few more that allow them more options...
1. Is there anything you'd like to tell me about today?
2. What's a funny thing that happened today?
3. What's your fav part of the day
4. What's your least fav part?
5. What's your question for the day?
6. What's one kind thing you did today?
7. What made you smile today?
8. Who's your best friend for today?
9. Is there anything else you'd like to say about today?

Isn't this list just brilliant!!!

And apparently on days i was too tired to ask them akshaya has been asking herself the questions!

And now ashwin wants to keep a diary and he's writing about the funny thing that happened to him!

Perspectives

The other night Ashwin was by the window . We heard an ambulance go by. I asked him to come in to brush his teeth or something equally mundane. He said "shh! You are disturbing me!"
I was like.. disturbing you! How? He's staring out of the window!
Then he says
"I'm praying for whoever needs the ambulance"
And i am speechless... again.
If i has stopped to pause and ponder i too may have worried about whoever needed the ambulance. But i heard it and did not pause-  did not listen if you will. He reminds me to be aware and think and pray for others even if we don't know them. An ambulance is a sign of of distress for somebody. On the road we can get out of its way... not obstruct its path to help. At home... we can pray for those who need its support.
The call of the ambulance is a call for prayer

Terror

He literally shakes when he speaks with me
I am so so so sad
Its going to take time to earn back his trust
He shivers when he sees me find out something wrong he's done
I must control myself.

More from my little man

Asks why we wanted to have kids
Said we love kids wanted to feel young again
He said you will still grow old
True i say
Then he drops it
So you didn't want kids jusy to scold them!!

With a sheepish smile too. No sarcarsm. Genuine wondee

Little aishu rocks

She comes home and says just straight... when i ask her who painted her nails was it iyya.. she says... aaya. Iyya is always busy with his phone. He loves me but doesnt look after me!

Then she thinks for a bit and says
Maybe its an important message! Taking trouble over the word important

And the other day when i told her to cover her mouth while coughing so germs don't escape... she thinks a bit and says appa never told me why i should cover my mouth.

She utterly charmed her brother by scolding me for scolding him and saying I'm not giving him time to think... such a little sweetheart really

Yesterday she exclaims she can't wait to grow up and drive by herself in a car so she can listen to all the songs she wants

Ashwin

He's my darling. Such a sensitive soul
Yesterday he was beaming saying "i'm so confident right Aatha!"
I had been praising him for going up on stage to dance,  for figuring out how to get balls out of a broken glass, for asking questions at a play, for making new friends...

Then at a function to celebrate someone's 80th birthday he asks when is he going to die??!??!??!?

Mortified. We had to educate him on the spot that that was not the thing to say! But innocent he was. Asking matter of factly without the burden of the fears and worry attendant upon death. Cherishable moment i guess.

Up to yesterday he wanted to be an actor. As of yesterday he wants to be a singer like sp balasubramaniam..says he wants to learn singing till he's 25 or more.

I am so proud of him.

The other day in bed he said hes god worst blessing. So sad. The picture of him says god's sweetest blessing. His self esteem is something i have to work on

Currently ignoring his bad behaviour is working wonders.

He's so precious.
He wont be hugged in public already!