Sunday, April 20, 2025

my astute daughter

Yesterday she was in tears
Friendship issues
Turned away by 4 friends in close succession 


First cried her heart out to her sister
Later quietly shared with me
Her oepning lines
Aatha i found out i have no real friends

I asked her how would you describe a real friend

And her answer hit me in the gut

"Someone who chooses me"


Its one of the most perfect ways of describing a friend

It's the reason i teared up when Amelia said she'd wait for me for recess my first day in Cedar

Then when i tried to explain the concept of inner circles and outer circles of contacts and friends
She got it in one second into my explanation... like an onion! 

I am blessed with her. 

Also realised that adolescence is indeed lonely
Akshaya told me she was so lonely in sec 1
And aishu shared thats why akshaya went into fan fiction then
Stupid coivd robbed her of that chance to make friends 




aishu's debate journey

What a ride
2
1.in late jan she was  Informed that she may be selected. And she wanted it so bad. Then was selected.

2. Went for training on 15thAuygust.  Loved it. Saw this small cute boy from bedok green and was wowed. 

3.got fi rst topic. Naatu patru.  learned they were against bedok green! Panic. Was to be 2nd speaker. Struggled with speech writing. Hand written. Too long. Exhausted. Wenw3t for pasta mania just the two of us, first of such special meals. 

Learned to type speech. Practised. Was the most outstanding of the three much to surprise of everyone ! Including herself and us. 

4. Had alt week training online. Dance piano drama thevaram all on hold. Life on hold!

5. Next topic. Meelum thanmai. Made 1st speaker. 2 speeches!  ( coz wowed in 1st round. Teacher said in confidence to me she is best speaker!) Thought kids dont have meelum thanmai. Worked thru that and made it the opening. Iyya gave idea about how vacccines work. Added that to last speech. Again she thrilled. Was best of the lot. Got special mention by judges. 

6. Next speech into quarterfinals! thought wont be first speaker. Thought its about taking turns! But uh uh. All liked current format. Wrote speech. About thondooloyam. Was tired of memorising yet a other speech like 3 days after last one! 
 Rajini to the rescue with his ettu ettu song and happening poetic ending for 2nd speech. But went on holiday. No mood to practise. Most stressed. Poor thing. Did well despite exhaustion but not as well as could have. Had impromptu as well. On why girls should not do ns!!!handled it as well as she could. Slept 4 hours that aft. 

7. Now onto semifinals! Samooga udangagal. Fired up. 1st speech excellent..but got ready late by teachers.  2nd speech super late. Still rocked it! Worked in a planned rebuttal for confidence.  Killed it in impromptu! Was best experience of debating yet! Parents could watch this time. And they got to observe other debating pair too.
Judges said in private to me it was a tough choice between aishu and lakshanya for best speaker! Thrilled.  Pity they didnt award in earlier rounds. Would have got it then.

Along the way fell sick three times. Headache for 2nd round. Used time to rest and memorise speech

Violently Upset stomach 2 days before semi finals

Upset stomach again the week before the finals

Had dance exam day after semifinals
 But didnt do as well as hoped. Coz not supoerwoman lah

8. Onto the finals. Tough topic. Panam and manathalavil ilamai! Vetti. But got speech sorted early, both. Practiced and polished. Absolutely slayed it in finals. Got cheers and claps. Sang acted spoke everything.  Impromptu was a killer though.  Vegetarianism vs non veg. Didnt get the words.  Gave away her cards . But still did it. Recalling neelum thanmai speech without realising it! Didnt win. Fought disappointment.  

First time worked this hard for anything and did not win. Took 2 days to recover. So many self reflective qn. Could she have done better. Had she let her side down. How come they lost. Heartbreaking.  But nec process to go thru in life. But god was listening.  She wanted most of all to be in the papers and then on a plaque in school. God made it happen just for her.even if they didnt win the papers printed both finalists throughout! She skipped to school today! 

Thank you god for this wonderdul experience.  

Humbling. Electrifying. Educating. 

I was humbled by teachers level of hard work.  We had to work together as a team to prep the speeches the girls. I was humbled by their brilliant structure for semifinals. 

The thrill..i think we never felt as happy as we did after semifinals! Felt the elusive chanpionship within reach, despite out shaky start. 

And Tamil! Love of language has indeed grown.  So many songs introduced to aishu now. And seiyuls, thirukural moothurai. Beautiful indeed. And i discovered love for tamil, flair for tamil, speech writing skills in me i didnt know i had ! Saro teachers all surprised at thr scripts i wrote! 

Thank  you thank you thank you god! 

Malar and Mira, and Devi ans Kaavya came to support Aishu, icing in the cake truly



Saturday, April 5, 2025

aishu

We gonna date 

Im not getting an arranged marriage 

My brain is like a book catalogue except with words
Amd in that moment i could pull.out that exact corrext word and say it om the spot in 1 sec

Ive never driven without a purpose before! 

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