Ah this little pre- schooler! I feel bad coz I think I didn't do right by her at least two times recently. Makes me pause and think carefully about how to be a good parent.
Day 1: Akshaya got dressed by herself I had told her to go choose a pair of pants and a shirt and wear them and she did. Instead of praising her I said good girl darling but the shirt looks k like it might fit ashwin instead, that was bad! I should have made sure all her shirts within her reach were hers and not ashwins! Anyway she tried to change shirts and couldn't get it on so that affected her confidence and sense of 'I can do it' that she must have felt when she put on the first shirt. This translated to bad behavior on her part shouting and crying etc. it took me a minute to realize my mistake I told herbto go choose another shirt she likes and to put it on herself but not to be rude. She cried but later when I saw she had worn the short herself ( another too small shirt!) I just praised her and she was happy. I must respect her sense of self esteem. A small sensitive person is growing in my care and I have to nurture her and grow her self confidence not squash her sense of self like this.
Day 2:
She and ashwin were cuddling together in the cot and she said she wanted to sleep there tonight with ashwin. I should have told her then and there that may sound good but may not work out! Instead I made it sound I thought that was a great idea ( and theoretically it is!) later at bed times
I reverted to usual arrangement and that set off a tantrum. Sigh. My fault right! Not being up front with her straight away and raising her hopes
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