Sunday, May 25, 2014

The bully emerges


Such voices in my head self recriminating
I can't manage three kids on my own even with helper. I need three adults fur three kids .
I compare myself with Sita and feel ashamed all the time. She does three solo. Im useless
Day started well and went on well till lunch time which finished early- by 2. Ash even ate egg. Since then it's been downhill past three hours. 
3 bad hours makes me feel like crap. 
Tried to make them sleep and failed. Wanted to spend time playing with then but ashwin so clearly needed sleep he became so cranky. he threw up all of milk and lunch. Nothing in there but two slices of bread now.?
Whose fault? Mine. - just poor judgement. 
Now it's five and he's sleeping. Going to be tough on Saro and ashwin too later tonight. Sigh. Nvm I'll wake him up at 6. 

Recognize my danger buttons: crying in kids. Meals. So must watch out before situation goes out of control

Some self soothing and analyzing now. 
Don't ever compare yourself with others. Only yourself. Same rule applies in school and at home. 

Everyone has bad days bad few hours. 
God is not keeping a score to punish. He wants us all to learn and grow and he loves us
It's okay to be firm with kids. They need it sometimes. Doesn't mean you love them less. They know it too. 

Deal with each day bit by bit. Do not over plan or fret so much about meeting schedules. 

Wake him up at 6 leave for hosp. Return by 8.30. Akshaya to bed first. Simple. 

I can't put both older kids to bed at the same time. I must be firm about that. 

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