parenting ashwin

man today I yelled at ashwin just before he went to school. sigh he was just himself i guess but I noticed like 10 things he could have done better all at once and I lost it. I opened his school bag to put covers for his exercise books and I found a math worksheet just stuffed in BESIDE the file. The last 5 years and in particular last year we have spent hours, HOURS looking for stray pieces of homework.  and first week of school he stuffs the paper like that! yesterday also he cried that he must have left it at school and I found it at the bottom of the file crumpled. yesterday to today, same piece of paper, he doesn't think to take care of it! and this is not new we have discussed putting his hw in his file a gazillion times. ok so first thing to set me off, his paper outside his file. then I take his exercise books. all no name no subject  no cover nothing. so asked him to sit down and tell me while I write for him as he was having breakfast. the pen doesn't work so I take his pencil case out and what do I find inside... broken pens, springs plastic bits, unsharpened pencils no eraser ... i dump out all his broken stuff . I had asked him to pack his pencil case before school started on wed and on Fri its like this means this is what he thinks is a well packed pencil case! grrr. then we write names. earlier he said he can't find his notebooks when they were clearly in his cupboard. wrote tamil spelling in a book that later turned out to be his English journal he had started in class but did not write the name outside.  oh my god. so all this done his cubes. precious cubes. he throws them in the bag too and when you open the zip they just tumble out. these are cubes he does actually care about but not enough to put them in little felt bags that the cubes came with!!! I cannot take it. he cries when the cubes  break. but even when i offer him his felt bag he refuses it!!!! what do I with this guy!!! 

then he goes to his room and growls and groans, scaring everyone. I go to see what's going in he says he is angry he got scolded for 30 min. that's what he is angry about. whining about getting scolded not focused on what he has learnt

 he should be celebrating. voila today he learnt a packed pencil case should have working pens and pencils and not broken bits. he learned his cubes need a felt bag to be safe. he learnt notebooks need names and subject titles on them. should be happy right at last he learnt these things. grrrrrrrrr